Would the small gay boy you once were look up to the gay man you have become in your relationships?This is the question Joe Kort will help you answer in this book based on his widely successful first book, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives. In that book, Dr. Kort helps gay men develop a healthy, affirming relationship with their gay identity, and in this book he continues the conversation by exploring the topics of love and intimacy.Most people think that you cannot enjoy a satisfying relationship until you first get yourself healthy. Dr. Kort disagrees. Dating and getting into relationship are what help make you healthy. Relationships bring up the unfinished business from your past, both as children and as adults in relationships. 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love explores your relationship to yourself as a man and how that was impacted by the negative messages given to gay children about not being the "right" type of male. You will also discover how your relationship with your mother and father impacts your success in finding love and how, in fact, you are drawn to familiar love. Not knowing this information can lead you to walk away from the relationship of your dreams. Dr. Kort has the answers you are looking for.