A hopeful memoir about adapting when life doesn't go to plan, redefining family, and creating your own path. One afternoon, Emma Nadler gets a call from her daughter's doctor that changes her life forever. Faced with the realities of raising a child with a rare genetic condition, Nadler must confront her preconceptions of motherhood and her perfectionistic beliefs. Nadler-who also happens to be a psychotherapist-offers a rare window into the unconventional ways she and her family adapt to their improbable path. Every relationship in her life-with herself, her husband, children, friends, and even clients-is reimagined as she navigates the heartbreak and hilarity of her daily life. As she and her husband join the 53 million caregivers in the US, Nadler wrestles to belong in a society that devalues both caregivers and people with disabilities. She challenges the scripts that mothers should be martyrs, or that self-sacrifice is a necessary component of love. Nadler illustrates the complexity, grief, and joy of living an unexpected life, all with the wisdom of a therapist, the heart of a loving parent, and the ingenuity of a queer woman who refuses to be shackled by cultural expectations.